What Would We Do Without Our Trusted Umbrella?

What A Wonderful Poem For A Wet Day...

What A Wonderful Poem For A Wet Day…

Vancouver Umbrellas

Impatiently the umbrellas wait throughout the summer
Cheerfully, they greet you in the fall
They know they are needed
Fabulously and graciously they unfurl all over
Aggressively the umbrellas attack rain snow and sleet
Filling the city with their own musical sounds
As protectors they will give cover
They fight till turned inside out
Polka dotted or striped
They creatively color the greyest of days
With an assortment of colors
Dependable
They prevail every time

By Arabella

Is There A Perfect Parent?

Perfect Parent? Ha Not Me!

Perfect Parent? Ha Not Me!

Let me just dispel all the myths right now… “There are No Perfect parents!” From the first moment as a new parent when we hold our new born baby in our arms until they grow up and move out of the house our life will be filled with First Time Experiences. As a first time parent we are all new to the game. So, what does anyone do when they are new they make mistakes and learn from them and try, again, again and over again throughout their child’s life. Of course by the time the second child comes along (if there is a second) we have a little more knowledge and experience under our belt and can make different choices. Even then sometimes the methods that worked with one child may not work with the second.

The hardest moment in parenting to deal with is when a child is really upset or having a temper tantrum. Kids can push us beyond our limits and when you have an angry parent and an angry child sometimes not all the best decisions are made as my kids love to remind me. One time when my daughter Anya was little and totally out of control I was at a loss on how to help her calm down. Then I remembered a show I had seen where they put a hysterical person into a cold shower clothes and all to calm them down. The cold water shocked the person and chilled them out of their hysterics. I had tried everything else to no avail so thought it might work. Lets just say what works on TV doesn’t always work in reality. As soon as the cold water hit her body she totally lost it and was so mad she came out of the shower kicking and screaming then threw all her clothes and toys out of her drawers and all around her room.

What I didn’t understand at the time was what triggered her anger. She would lose control when she felt disrespected. She had already been feeling disrespected by whatever happened in the first place to upset her and the cold shower was definitely not respectful to her. After she calmed down I apologized and we talked about what we could both do differently next time.

It took some trial and error but I eventually learned what she really needed was to be heard and understood. If I could catch her before she lost control, sit with her and hear her side of the story she would feel heard and calm down. When she did lose control we found Cool Down Time worked better than cold showers. I would give her some paper and crayons or pencils in her room and ask her to draw me a picture of how she felt. She did draw some very angry pictures but it gave her a more positive way to vent her feelings and art became her escape and passion.

Anya also taught me a very valuable lesson. When disciplining a child remember, they are just like you. If you wouldn’t want to be treated a certain way yourself do not treat a child that way and if you do over react a bit like putting your child into a cold shower it is always ok to say you’re sorry after all we are only human. Sometimes it is better for you both to walk away for Cool Down Time rather than carry on. As a mom on more than one occasion I gave myself a cool down time until I calmed down enough to be able to help my child deal with their emotions.

Being a parent I guarantee you will make mistakes or if your children are older you have already made mistakes. What is important to remember is we all, even our children are doing the best we can with what we know in this moment. So be gentle with yourself and your child. When our knowledge changes through experience or parenting books or courses we will learn a different way to handle the same situation for the next time and as parents we know there will always be another opportunity to try again.

Let The New Year Begin!!!

May Your 2015 Be Filled With Love, Health And Joy!

May Your 2015 Be Filled With Love, Health And Joy!

Happy New Year everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful Holiday Season! Have you set your New Year’s Resolutions for the year? My 2015 resolution is to work less around the home and make more time to play with my family. As a mom my life is so jam packed with everything I have to do in the day I find I don’t have the time to enjoy just being with my family as much as I would like. Even when my children were little I was always more the caregiver/housemaid and my husband the playful parent. Not that we didn’t do lots of things together just that I wish I had done more.

One of my kid’s favorite activities when they were little was blowing bubbles outside. They loved watching the way the bubbles, especially really big ones reflected the light and scenery around them, turning different colors with the sun’s reflection. We used to blow bubbles in the rain too so they wouldn’t pop when they hit the ground and the kids would run around trying to stomp on them all.

Their next favorite activity was playing with sidewalk chalk. We would draw roads all over the end of our street and the kids would draw a house each and ride their bikes and toy cars over the roads to each other’s homes all day long. My daughter Anya still loves drawing with sidewalk chalk only today it is road art being created instead of roadways.

Now that my kids are getting older there are still activities we enjoy doing together. My kids love hosting games nights with our friends where we play board games, card games and electronic games of all sorts young and old. We love going for walks out in nature or just up to the mall, and going out for lunch or movies together one on one. These are some of the things I want to do more of in 2015. I would also like to make sure we get in at least one if not more camping trips this year as it is something we all love and haven’t made time for the last couple of years.

So this year I encourage you all to join me and make a promise to yourself and your family to spend more time playing and less time being busy with chores. Our children are only young once and we will never have this moment with them again in our life time. I hope you enjoy the family time you create in 2015.

Cheers!

Karen

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The information on this site is based on the personal experience of the author. There are no guarantees of a perfect method to raise a child, it is all trial and error. Please feel free to try some of the suggestions on this site and let me know how you make out. If you would like to use any words or pictures from this blog please contact me for written permission. © 2013

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